Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Deeply touched

I read this post written by a lady married to a doctor. It blew me away. It was amazing. If you are married to a doctor/resident/medical student or you want some more insight about it because you may be considering it, you need to go and check out her post. A.m.a.z.i.n.g.

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joz1234 said...

thanks for sharing! I loved that post!

Rachel said...

Thanks for sharing! Although I'm not a wife of someone in the medical field... I've totally had to remind myself that "I'm important too"! I've changed friends, jobs, and addresses more times than I would have ever expected to help farther Adam's career. I don't regret those moves, but I have had to "re-discover" my interests again. It's crazy how quickly you forget.

Jennerator said...

Okay, I really enjoyed most of her post, she is very insightful. But I am kinda tired of the same old rhetoric I hear from doctor's wives. No offense to anyone reading this, but you wives make assumptions about the "assumptions" that non-medical people make about you. Frankly, I don't know anyone who thinks drs. make tons of money and have a great life, especially while in residency. And I'm kinda sick of people telling me how hard their life is, and how much their husbands are gone, and how they have no money, and how people don't see how much blood and tears go into their profession. Well, welcome to the club. My husband puts in almost as many hours, makes no money and most people work incredibly hard their entire lives just to get by!! Anyone who wants to make it in life has to give a lot of blood and sweat and tears. I think soldiers wives have it A LOT harder than drs. wives. I think many need to get beyond themselves and their whining and look at other peoples lives. I know drs. have it tough. My best friend is the wife of an ENT. She has it tough and I'm glad I'm not in her position. At the same time, my husband works just as hard and long, but I don't really complain about, because that's just the way life is.

I don't know anyone on the blog except Melisa, so I'm sure I made a great deal of you mad, not my intent. I'm just putting it out there from the perspective of a "non-medical wife". Quit making assumptions that we aren't making.

Debbie said...

Jenn, AMEN! You're right on. I think that article is good marriage advice to ANYONE, not just doctor's wives. Sure, it's nice to connect with those that understand every aspect of medical training, residency and so on but really, like you stated...we're not alone in our "complaints". There are many, many hard working men, like your husband, who put in lots of hours and deal with the politics and pressures of the workplace and they aren't doctors. I know women who's husbands travel all week and are only home on the weekends. Geesh, I'd rather deal with Richard's hours then that! Honestly, being married to a resident hasn't been bad. In fact, I LOVE being in residency and dread the day we graduate. Life is so simple and like she said in the article, you just make every minute with your spouse count. Richard puts in a good 80 hours a week but I don't feel it because we put each other as our number one priority. Melisa, I've got to admit...your in a rough situation with Brad being so far away and that's just about comparable to an army wife. Anyway, like Jenn I don't mean to offend. I am the wife of a doctor and I'm living it and I can honestly say it's not that bad. As I always say, it is what you make it. Dwell on the negative, you'll find it. Dwell on the positive, you'll find it. No matter who you are married to and what profession they chose, you deal with less then ideal situations. I just think of this time in our lifes as an investment for our future. We sacrifice now for a "better" life later. Anyway...my thoughts, for what they're worth.

Melisa said...

Rachel - That is sooo true! There is so much moving around and sacrificing that goes along with schooling. You guys move so much! I wish you weren't moving this time. :o( We will miss you tons!

Jenn - I agree 110%. I have said it a thousand times and I'll say it a thousand more before I die: Military wives are hands down the most dedicated, tough, determined, and INCREDIBLE women I could possibly imagine. I don't know how they endure what they do on a regular basis. That is exactly why we pray 3 and 4 times every*single*day for soldiers and their families. That is exactly why I've taught my kids to say 'thank you' every time they see a solier in uniform. That is why I told a soldier at the Y thank you this morning. This nation is in debt to our military families and I get teary every time I think about what they endure.

My hats are off to you military wives and I sincerely hope you have a support system to help you through.

Sarah C said...

I totally agree with Jennifer Hunt. I really appreciate all the things she shared with us. It helped give me a better understanding and perspective for life. I know a lot of people have husbands that work long hard hours. It is not easy for any of us. I think the best things we can do it support and encourage our friends and family in any trial they may have. We all have different trials in life. We don't always relate to others trials, but we can always be understanding of their feelings. It can be hurtful when you reach out to someone and share your emotions and they judge you instead of support you. I am grateful that I have the love and support of my Heavenly Father. Sometimes I feel like I have no one to turn to. I kneel down and pray. Sometimes I cry. I plead for help. I plead for comfort. I ask for guidance. I know that he hears my prayers. I feel so much comfort in knowing that I can always turn to Heavenly Father. I hope we can all support each other in all the trials we have in life.